After my divorce, I asked myself what I needed. I went to the bench a lot. I ate out at diners. I leased a roadster convertible and revved the shit out of it through the canyons blasting obnoxious music and wearing no shirt. And didn’t care. I took myself to the movies. Went on long walks. Pour myself into my passions. Started writing again. I needed to treat myself well. Better. I needed to do things for myself and not feel guilty about them. I also pushed my body harder than I ever have before. I needed to feel alive. I needed to like who I was. I was in a nine-year relationship with someone verbally abusive. Then another one that was a nightmare, well, not in the beginning, but you know... If you’re single and you want to make it about you again. Or maybe for the first time. The time is now.

I like John Kim and this book for it's honesty. It makes you reflect on your actions, thoughts and desires. It helps you identify what fuels them and most importantly, how to rewrite them. I will not be in a lopsided relationship where they don’t make space for me to hear my story and understand my emotions

I pro a ly should have realized that an author that calls himself the "Angry Therapist" would be way too negative for me. He was. He had a "Daily Mantra" for each days lesson but mantras are usually made to be sayings that you repeat over and over again to have positive beliefs. I’ve been single. Many times. I’ve struggled with loneliness. Rejection. Not believing I was desirable. I’ve tried dating myself again and again, and it was bullshit. The truth is, we’re humans and we’re not meant to do life alone. We want to love someone. And that’s okay. We’re biologically built that way. What’s not okay is losing ourselves because we don’t have someone to love. Or losing ourselves in the person we’ve chosen to love. And finally, this book is for anyone who has never been single. Ever. You’ve always been in a relationship, maybe since high school, jumping from one lily pad to another and repeating the same dysfunctional patterns over and over. The only thing changing is the faces. Your friends all say, You need to be alone, and you reply, I don’t know how! They think you’re full of shit, but the truth is, you’re afraid. You’re uncomfortable with yourself. It’s so much easier to hide in someone else. But hiding in a relationship or another person shrinks your ability to expand and explore your potential as a human being. You know this. And you know you need to work on building your relationship with yourself. But you don’t know how. You need a road map.

Work. Love. Happy. Healthy. Success. How do you define these today? Is working meaningful for you? Or do you dread getting up each day? What about love? From everything you’ve learned and been through, what is important to you when it comes to love? Do you have new non-negotiables?Do you put weight on different things? Healthy? What is healthy to you today? What about success? Is it still measured by the numbers in your bank or does it mean something else? Single on Purpose is for people who have never been involved, people who have jumped from partner to partner, and those who have lost themselves in their current relationship—anyone who needs to learn that there’s more to life than who we choose to love. Lindsay interviews Candace St. John, an epidemiologist and public health specialist with additional training in pediatric sleep and lactation support, who helps parents cut through the noise and use science in combination with their own intuition to inform their parenting decisions. In this episode we discuss a lot of the myths and truths around infant development and needs, including hot topics like sleep training, breastfeeding, responsive parenting, post-partum, early attachment, screen time, pregnancy and birth, trauma in early childhood and more!

John is buried in his laptop when he notices a woman in her early thirties standing in front of him. No one really wants to “date themselves.” But all of us, at some point, need to be single—on purpose. After a series of failed relationships and a painful divorce, John Kim realized he had never truly been on his own. He knew that to move forward, he had to build a relationship with himself, to embark on a journey from alone and lonely to alone and fulfilled. My Review - This book came in right when It was needed most in my life. Not because of any relationship issues but because I felt a loss of connection with myself. Let me tell you at the utmost that this book is not about singlehood or specifically for people not in a relationship with another human. This book is about bonding with oneself. No matter the reader is single or in a relationship or anything. The book talks about how important it is for oneself to have a real connection with themselves before having anything with someone else. No matter the status of the relationship, one must know, understand and prioritize their own relationship with their inner self than any other. That's how one can rejoice in every other bond. And that's what made me attracted to this book. I too agree with the thing about our relationship with self-being the most prioritised relation than any other in our life. A few chapters did feel bonkers and the reader is the one to either adapt or trash them. The quotes, the life experiences of the author and his patients is what gave this book a real-life catalogue of stories that can be related here and their by us. This thing made the book much more unique and relatable by me and probably to you too if you choose to read so. May it be a hard break up or lonely singlehood or happily ever after a relationship or joyfully singlehood, I recommend this book to all those feeling a bit lost and trying to find themselves in the hush and bush of everything. My goal in writing this book is to start that process for you. To introduce you to you—for many of you, maybe for the first time. Was leaning toward a 5 but a personal pet peeve, I am not looking for music recommendations from a book. There is an entire chapter with an annotated playlist and then he said Broken Social Science instead of Scene and I was even more annoyed. To be fair I’m having a bad day.