Stamp your own mark on the proceedings rather than following his script – and make it clear that he scenario is happening because you want it. To the chastened male, his keyholder becomes the most beautiful, desirable, and unattainable woman in the world – and what man wouldn’t enjoy wooing and perhaps even winning such a woman, over and again?

Professional-quality units (such as those used by the police) are more escape proof – but also much more costly; if you’re spending serious money anyway, then you might be better off selecting a fully customized design. Tube-type devices fasten directly to the man’s genitals, generally being secured by means of a ring that sits next to his lower abdomen, encircling his penis and scrotum.The latest generations of such devices include a ring that supports the tube, preventing too much weight from resting on the piercing. If the things you choose to do with that power don’t happen to match his fantasy scripts – well, why would they? Mostly, he will be able to work around this by taking longer in the bathroom, using Q-Tips and an adjustable-pressure shower head, and so on, bit you’ll need to be at least a little more involved in this part of his life than before.

There is, of course, no reason for you not have received full satisfaction – by means of his mouth or in any other way you please – in the meantime, but even so, there’s a good chance that the first orgasm you permit him will come too quickly, particularly if you allow him to have that orgasm inside you.Often, these expectations guide us toward behavior that’s good for us – and just as importantly, good for the society in which we all must live. If he can’t co-operate for the purposes of this exercise – well, you must draw your own conclusions. If it’s something you want, and if he truly feels submissive toward you, then it’s not something he wants either. MALE The practice of securing a consenting adult male by means of a lockable chastity device such that the chastened male’s sexual release can be achieved only with the keyholder’s involvement and consent.

So it’s hardly surprising that a man should become more attentive as his keyholder ramps him from arousal to frustration and back; his options for achieving sexual satisfaction have been taken (literally) out of his hands and narrowed down to the will of a single person. For example, monks, priests, and various other holy men practice male chastity (or at least they’re supposed to), generally in the service of their god. If you’re considering a cuff-based device, you’d be welladvised to check with the manufacturer to see if they have solved this problem.How many myths, legends and folk tales include a hero who is motivated toward self-sacrifice on behalf of the woman he desires, and who thus endures all kinds of difficulties and hardships at her behest? Unfortunately, the tendency that worked so well when it came to spreading humanity across the face of the planet can turn out to be a problem in a modern loving relationship.

Feel free to tell him to put his pants back on, to zip up, and to get on with his day – while you get on with yours. It's a good book as an introduction for people who are asked to be a potential keyholder, as it's not very kinky oriented but mostly informative with a good emphasis on consent and exploring on your terms and pace. The ideal from his point of view, of course, would be for his admission to trigger a matching revelation from you: that you’ve been wishing to dominate him sexually for the longest time, but were too embarrassed. I would have loved to have a bit more feminist theory in there as well, however, it does give some examples of patriarchal dynamics and behaviors and how chastity can serve as a pragmatic feminist tool to rebalance those.

It's matter of fact but also very reassuring that keyholding is all about us Ladies and we can do it our way!