We have become disconnected from each other. It all started with the Industrial Revolution where wee moved from workers possessing multiple skills and dynamically performing them, to production lines where rows of workers each performed a distinct role. Somewhere along the line here we’ve lost our humanity.

We can make people feel a deep sense of belonging immediately by giving an induction to the individual with an Us story, an induction to the history of the team or project and allow them to connect with that history and Us story personally. Even a personal conversation with the leader to explain the new recruits role within the tribe really helps.

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Players for a team, for example, may be given their national team shirts and asked to write on them what it personally meant to play for that team. This visual activity is effective.

The sun rose in the east and shone on our first ancestor. Here is our origin story. Just as happens with each passing day, the sun slowly moves down this unbreakable chain of people. Each of us will have our time in the sun. But the sun is always moving. Moving towards the west, where it will finally settle. For small business, their tribe may be defined at the start as the founders. Their mission is survival. Once their viability is established they then move on to making the enterprise sustainable over the medium term. As the business evolves, their definition of their tribe widens to include employees and customers. We can’t call ourselves successful because we’re ranked No 1 or get a lot of medals when that [long-term mental health issues] is the cost.” He explains the need for leaders in sport to “broaden their definition of success”, connecting with my own work and book that redefines The Long Win. When our need to belong is met we can focus on a team’s shared mission. We are comfortable being vulnerable in our quest to get better. We feel secure enough that others can point out where we could be better. Our own identity and that of the team coexist.The Leading and Learning Webinar is a video series for school leaders that sets out to bring the latest organisational thinking from the management sector into education. Connecting to the future requires asking what the team’s vision is - what they are working towards and what the environment needs to enable and drive towards. Unafraid to speak of spirituality (“it might freak your readers out”), he describes creating a great team as a spiritual challenge. “If you look at the definition of spirituality that is it: it is individuals connected to a higher purpose than their own and emotional communion between people.”

But there is another world. Where the hormone soup recipe is wrong and doesn’t allow us to be at our best. Clearly here is no performance benefit in this. Working with the NATO Command Group, Eastwood invoked whakapapa to reflect on previous NATO Command Groups, looking at the challenges they faced when the sun shone on them and the legacies they ultimately left. They then previewed their own legacy as the sixteenth leadership team and articulated this in writing with a whakapapa legacy statement. We may become more aggressive, though we are likely to target that at those people who owe perceive as having lowered status than us.There are plenty of other leadership tips in this book that are of importance to groups, movements and organisations. One of these is the importance of visualisation, not just to plan for things going right, but also for coping when things go wrong. Eastwood also speaks with teams about what they can control, and what they can’t. This enables them to focus on what’s in their power to influence. Finally, there’s a focus on the present. Do we have a sense of identity that flows into everything we do? Do we see ourselves as an unbroken chain from our ancestors to those that follow in our footsteps? This is an area that often needs mending. In building teams, leaders need to understand that people are highly tuned to receive the story of Us. Herein lies an opportunity for leaders to connect with and influence teams at a deeper level. Great leaders widen the Us story so that every person in their group feels a genuine sense of belonging.