Desensitizing butt lubes: these can dull or remove pain sensation altogether, which can prevent you from noticing potential injury. When you don’t know what your butt can and cannot handle, that’s when problems arise It's your choice what you do, but just be very careful. Inserting toys that far into you is not recommended and it really is testing limits of your anatomy. No matter how flexible your toy is and how much you prepare there is a risk of damaging the colon or bowel perforation, resulting in an emergency hospital admission.

Silicone does have its downsides though: it stains sheets and lingers on surfaces (and people). Put a towel down or throw “play sheets” over the bed before things get going. Make sure to wash your hands thoroughly before touching items in your bathroom, too. Oil lubes The best tip for lube is that there is no such thing as too much—especially when you’re first starting out. Silicone vs. water lubeAnd while there's no ONE lube that's best for anal sex, some are better than others. Silicone-based lubes are great for P-in-the-B action, since they're silky and long-lasting but can't be used on silicone toys, Boyajian explains. Water-based lubes, on the other hand, work well with silicone toys and are easy to clean off sheets and clothes, but they may be less luxurious feeling. There aren't many hard and fast rules in the bedroom, but when it comes to anal sex, there is at least one: Using lube is an absolute must. is some pain to be expected? i know when i first started using larger toys (10-13 inch circumference) the first few times i couldn't get them in because it was a feeling i didn't experience with smaller toys so i didn't put much force trying to get them in, turns out that "feeling" is normal and i pushed pasted it and am used to it now, i'm wondering if it's something similar with my current situation? although i definately felt minor instances of pain tonight trying to get past sigmoid, and i am slightly sore when i stretch or push down on rectum/colon from my front side Another type? Oil-based lubes (think coconut oil), which have a nice slippery texture but typically can't work with latex condoms (because they weaken the barrier). And then there are hybrid lubes—a mix of water- and silicone-based—which offer the best of both worlds and can typically be used with everything.

When we’re talking lube, we mean the real stuff—silicone or water-based lube—not spit. Saliva actually dries out your skin, making it less elastic.Don't let the (kinda hilarious) name fool you: This stuff is A+ for female butt play, too. The formula inside the tub of "margarine" is a mix of coconut oil, silicone, and other vegetable oils and maintains a similar consistency to what you'd expect from a spreadable butter. Why? Unlike your vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate—nope, not even a little bit. "No matter how turned on you may be, there is nothing to prevent unwanted friction unless you add lube," says Amy Boyajian, CEO and co-founder of sexual wellness boutique Wild Flower. "Not only does this help to prevent painful microtears, but it will make anal sex way more pleasurable." blindkill so 13 inch toy seems huge lol... puts my regular old 8 and 9 inch ones to shame for sure. I didn’t realize everyone didn’t get to this place honestly till last year, or even what it was called. My first time with a guy, he was rather big and during the night I felt what I called the pop... that was it. I can get to and in with my toys... granted it legit takes every bit I prob need a bigger one just for safety. For me, when I reach it I feel the pressure, similar to when I first start with the toy it’s just on the inside. Then there’s the resistance... that’s when you gotta start moving it around a bit to just find an angle that works... The best for me is angled a bit up (towards stomach). Take your time and pain is not good... but there is nerves there again like at the entrance and the sensation of getting to and past it can be intense and amazing. Water-based lubricants are completely toy-friendly and a great start to butt play. They are condom-safe, so they are also a great way to go from toy to the real thing seamlessly. They usually also contain natural ingredients that many people love. Step 1: When thinking about your behind, every bottom (and top) should keep three areas in mind: the surrounding skin of the hole, the external sphincter (or the rim of the hole), and the internal sphincter (and beyond). Each of these areas needs to be coated properly with lube to ensure a fun time for both parties, while also lowering the risk for injury. The best way to make sure you’re lubed up entirely is to actually start with a dilator or another toy either before your top comes over or as part of foreplay. Start with putting a big pump or squirt of lube on your hole with your fingers (nails clipped!) or the toy itself. Then, insert a well-lubed finger or two or start with the smallest dilator just to coat that outer and inner rim (remember we want everything coated with lube).