Without anal lube, backdoor penetration of any kind—whether it be with a toy, a finger, or a penis—can be painful and even cause some mild bleeding afterward due to any tears in the sensitive anal canal tissue. But now you might: Woo More Play fuses naturally fragrant coconut oil, vanilla essence, beeswax, and stevia—but all in amounts that keep the lube safe for any kind of sexcapades. Finally, there’s oil-based lube, which is the slickest, lasts the longest, but is a flat “no” for use with latex condoms or toys. And though silicone-based lubes tend to be the best choice for anal sex or any other type of anal play, these top-rated choices are all slick, long-lasting, and—most importantly—body-safe. Have your top lie on their back, and with constant communication, you can slowly have them insert themselves or you can sit down on them until you hit resistance.

I was nervous but am glad I went with this lube, as it was surprisingly long-lasting during anal sessions, and even more importantly, it didn't cause a burning sensation like some of the other lubricants I have purchased in the past. Luna Matatas is a sex and pleasure educator based in Toronto, Canada, who coined Peg the Patriarchy and hosts b-Vibe's The Plug podcast. When it comes time to whip out the lube for anal sex, use as much as the receiving partner needs to feel comfortable, says Dr. Corinne Sullivanis an editor at Cosmopolitan and has five years of experience writing about sexual health and sex toys, including the best prostate massagers and the best arousal gels. According to Matatas, there are three types of lubes: water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based, and each has its benefits and drawbacks.

Goldstein is the go-to butt and bottoming expert, having been published in Huffington Post, Men’s Health, Healthline, and more. Made with natural ingredients—aloe, hibiscus, flax, to name a few—it creates a medium-bodied consistency that's Goldilocks-perfect for anal adventures. For the smoothest experience, I recommend applying along the full shaft of the toy, around the opening of the anus on the outside, and also a bit on the inside of the anus with your fingers," Vrangalova says. The bottle also has a built-in locking mechanism, so you don't have to worry about losing the cap and lube leaking. Water-based is also the easiest to clean up, but isn’t quite as slippery as silicone-based or oil-based formulas.

With no shortage of choice out there, finding the right one for you—especially if you’re just starting out bottoming—is key to keeping things safe, friction-free and fun in the bedroom. It's also super-easy to apply (just like a jar of actual PJ), so you're less likely to underuse it (a common rookie mistake). As Babeland brand manager and sex educator Lisa Finn points out, the lining of your rectum is very good at absorbing stuff, so you don't want any unnecessary alcohol, flavorings, and artificial dyes. It's a paraben-free, silicone-based lubricant that you can use shower (and underwater) to keep things friction-free and extra slippery.

By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. It's designed for both comfort and long-lasting use, and you'll love that it's free from alcohol, glycerin, dyes, parabens, gluten, and fragrances, which means you can use it vaginally as well. Probs because it's super slick, surprisingly long-lasting, and so easy to pump in the heat of the moment.

It's safe to ingest orally and use with silicone toys, and since it comes in the form of a spray, a little will go a long way. Just like when finding a good lube for your vagina, it's best to avoid products with perfumes or scents, as these oft times will serve as irritants. No matter how turned on you may be, there is nothing to prevent unwanted friction unless you add lube," says Amy Boyajian, CEO and co-founder of sexual wellness boutique Wild Flower. She's covered sex, relationships, health, wellness, and LGBTQ+ issues since 2013, and has previously worked as a reporter and editor at Mic and the New York Observer.Great for folks with sensitivities, this formula is pH-balanced and free from both glycerin and parabens, and since it's formulated from silicone, it'll never evaporate or dissolve in water—meaning it's never absorbed into your skin. There aren't many hard and fast rules in the bedroom, but when it comes to anal sex, there is at least one: Using lube is an absolute must.

My roommate spilled silicone lube on his bathroom floor and it literally took hours to clean up; this stuff washes off with soap and water. This way, you get the benefits of coconut oil with a more stable consistency and less irritation," says Boyajian. Sorta like a syringe, the Lube Shooter deposits lube exactly where you need it, skipping the whole messy-hands issue.

Jojoba, which is rich in anti-inflammatory properties to promote skin flexibility and softness for a smoother, more enjoyable ride. With thousands of five-star reviews, it's pretty clear people can't get enough of this company's amazingly long-lasting, non-staining formula, which you'll be happy to know is free from parabens and glycerin and safe to use with everything except polyurethane condoms. Enter Gun Oil H20, a water-based but super-slippery lubricant that's fortified with aloe vera and oat extract to minimize irritation and help repair tissue. They help you get lube deeper into the rectum, which is great for making sure you're not just applying lube to the first couple of inches of the rectum if you're penetrating past that," she says. Step 1: When thinking about your behind, every bottom (and top) should keep three areas in mind: the surrounding skin of the hole, the external sphincter (or the rim of the hole), and the internal sphincter (and beyond).